Meena Kandasamy’When I Hit You has been widely appreciated by readers and critics alike. The book has been

It was also included in the Guardian’s, Daily Telegraph’s, Observer’s and Financial Times’ Best Books of 2017.

The book is a smart, fierce and courageous take on traditional wedlock in modern India. We bring to you some of the reader reviews which might compel you to read this book as well.

Sherina Poyyail’s review on Amazon says,

“Gripping till the very end. The author is stunning with her ability to carry the narrative without a dull moment. Presents the stark reality of many relationships. Highly recommend.”

This Amazon review by Ashima Jain,

“Meena Kandasamy, in her novel – When I Hit You: Or, A Portrait of the Writer as a Young Wife – writes a hard-hitting account of a writer’s marriage in an effort to lift the veil on the silence that surrounds domestic violence and marital rape in modern India. She addresses compelling questions in her lyrical style of writing that is poetic and draws you into it’s prose. The incidents she describes play havoc with your mind, and they are not even a fraction of what the victim would have experienced…When I Hit You is seething with rage. It is painful and devastating. It is also powerful, courageous and inspiring. It is a lesson. Of the signs that should be identified. Of hope. Of strength. Of being the woman not the world wants you to be, but what you want to become. It is a lesson to not let your loyalty become slavery. Any relationship, when becomes overbearing, needs to be terminated. One always needs to remember that one can always get out.”

This is what a blogger had to say,

“This book made made me think of all the women who have suffered in marriage, most of them silently, many of them withstanding emotional violence, some of them physical and sexual violence. Women like my mom, like Nora from ‘The Doll’s House’ and countless others that I knew or read about. This book might open some old wounds if one has seen or experienced something similar. It is not for the faint-hearted.”

Read more here.

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Preethi’s review on Goodreads says,

“If you are a woman, read this book and tell yourself how bad some people in this world could be. If you are a man, read it to know the atrocities women have to put up with. If you are a parent, read this to know that you have to support your girl and teach your boy to be a sensitive human being. And if you are a citizen of the world, read it to know how harsh the world is and how quick it is to judge, in many cases.”

Read more here.

Meghna Pant’s review in The Asian Age,

“Kandasamy’s prose reads like a poem. Her feminism reads like a manifesto discovering itself. Her tryst with truth reads like a scar slashing across experience. Her pithy prose does not numb but highlights the horror. The narrator and perpetrator are left unnamed and largely undescribed. They could be any man and any woman. This obtuseness throws the violence into sharp relief, manifesting itself into the central character. This feeling of unfeeling is something Kandasamy excels at.”

Read more here.

Here is a review from The Guardian Bookshop,

“Coming with giant grass-roots support and extraordinary critical acclaim, When I Hit You has moved readers to laughter, to anger, to tears… and to action.Caught in the hook of love, a young woman marries a dashing university professor. She moves to a rain-washed coastal town to be with him, but behind closed doors she discovers that her perfect husband is a perfect monster. As he sets about battering her into obedience and as her family pressures her to stay in the marriage, she swears to fight back – a resistance that will either kill her or set her free.”

A glimpse of the review on The Wire,

“The triumph of Kandasamy’s book is that it straps you into your seat and makes you ride the rollercoaster for yourself so that you are jolted out of any pity or derision you may feel, and shaken into a sense of genuine empathy. Every stupid, horrific question of ‘why didn’t you’ and ‘why did you’ is efficiently invoked, comprehensively slain and feminism modelled as a way to stay breathing in the face of patriarchal dehumanisation. Unlike the Tumblr posts and comic gifs you may have ignored at your peril, this book shows far more than it tells. After reading it, you really have no excuse for not getting it.”

Read more here.

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Proshant Chakraborty wrote a review on Medium,

When I Hit You is a book that resonated so much with me, as a feminist and an anthropologist who’s been involved with front-line workers and domestic violence prevention over the last three years; it resonated so much because it tells a truth about the experience of millions of women across the world who face abuse and violence of all sorts, whose voices are battling the silence forced upon them (and the abuse faced by others who are marginalised in other respects and are forced to stay silent).”

Read more here.

If you still haven’t read When I Hit You, you can read it here.


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